Rage in and of itself is not a bad thing and in fact, in certain situations, very positive things can come from it. The danger with rage is not with the feeling itself, it’s with how we behave when we’re feeling it. It’s almost impossible to have a constructive fight or argument when one or the other partners is that angry. We’re way too likely to say or do something hurtful or abusive. The best thing to do is to call a time out and give yourselves a chance to cool off. Come back together and try the discussion again when you’re both calmer and more rational.