Not only is it normal, it’s healthy. The people we’re closest to have the ability to find all of our soft spots. Quite often, our soft spots are places in us that need to heal. If couples can strive to have their fights and disagreements in an overall atmostphere of good will, fights can actually be constructive instead of destructive — both to each individual and also to the relationship. There’s a difference between disagreeing and even fighting and emotional abuse. And, of course, there’s never an excuse in a relationship for physical abuse.