I’m a highly successful professional and have always been very competent and fulfilled in my work. However, in my personal life, my relationships seem superficial and/or don’t last long. I never really felt I needed a relationship but I’m beginning to see a pattern and it makes me wonder if I’m deluding myself.

People who have the combination of being very bright, highly motivated and having issues with attachment often end up the way you describe yourself. They learn to hide behind their intellect as a defense against feelings. Relationships are often somewhat shallow because that’s the only kind of relating that feels safe. People like this may or may not be aware of the fact that something’s missing in their lives. It’s a good sign when they do have this awareness because it means they’ll be more open to treatment.